Ephesians 3:16 “I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being, 17 so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith.”
Take a moment to stop and consider the progression. What happens first? Who is doing the action? Where does this action take place? What is the result?
Perhaps it is time to stop the striving and let Him do His work.
Galatians 3: 2 I would like to learn just one thing from you: Did you receive the Spirit by the works of the law, or by believing what you heard? 3 Are you so foolish? After beginning by means of the Spirit, are you now trying to finish by means of the flesh?”